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Forget It

We think many times when walking on a spiritual path that we need to add something, that there is some piece of knowledge or a chant that will unlock to door.  While this stuff can be helpful, very helpful at some points, most if not all the answers can come from within.  It’s not so much what we have to learn all the time as what we have to forget.    This was brought back to mind by the magnet that sits on my fridge.  The spirit or ease of life we so desperately seek is always present.  Inside of you, right now, is true love and even enlightenment, the problem is all the stuff we have collected over our lives to cover it up.  For example I used to drink and act out a lot, as an action of ego I would blow up my problems and make them worse and worse.  I needed to have the worst problems around, then I thought nobody could blame me for drinking and acting out.  After many years of this behavior I stopped drinking and acting out and really trying to seek a better way of life.  The problem was I was still making a mountain out of a mole hill, I would stub my toe and by the time you heard about it I nearly ripped my leg off.  I was stuck in this thinking and the smallest problem would keep me down and depressed for way too long.  I had to forget this defense mechanism that was no longer needed.  It took time and pain to see things as they really were, to see how important or non important things were.  This was one of the many things I had to forget to open my way up to a happy life.  There were many more that’s for sure but as I began to forget this negative way of life, the positive was just there.  This is when I came to believe that the positive, happy, peaceful way of life was natural and what we were meant to be living.

With all we learn from the world around us it is very hard for most of us to be in a natural state of peace but if we are mindful of what we are taking in and forget what is not needed I think we can go far.  Not so much that we need to learn love but forget hate, the love will shine forth I promise.

 

What have you had to forget on your journey?

 

 

Peace Love Das

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Blowing Sunshine

You may be shocked to know that not everyday am I blowing sunshine out of my butt.  Yes I do consider myself to be very happy and positive person but some days are better than others.  When I look back before I started the path I am on now most days flat out sucked.  I was miserable and if some of the circumstances that happened today happened then I would probably be pissed off for a couple months.  Today I am just not as happy as I normally am but I sure don’t feed into it like I used to.  Ego can not only make you feel better than, it could also take great pride in going the other direction, making you feel worst than everyone else like you have the biggest problems in the world.  Trust me you don’t nor did I, its ok.  Today when things aren’t going my way I just kind of role with it, do what I can and forget the rest.  I could spend my whole life focusing on what isn’t perfect but that whole time I would be missing what is and when it comes down to it, in the end, its all perfect, we just don’t see it yet.

 

So tonight I will read a joke, say a prayer, meditate, read some spiritual text and refocus and I am pretty sure it will pass.

 

What do you do on days like these, when the smile fades from your face a bit?

 

Forget it my cat just made funny faces at me I am back to blowing sunshine out of my butt.

 

and remember when all else fails don’t take yourself so seriously

 

Peace Love Das

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Prayers Without Borders

As I grow spiritually my prayers cease to have borders. When I used to pray the prayers were for myself alone. My world was very small and painful for myself and those around me. My world was small cause my ego was large there was much pain as I thought all the negative in the world was directed at me. Little things, it wasn’t that gas prices went up but they went up for me. As I grew under the direction of teachers, books, music and the influence of many things. My ego began to shrink ever so slightly and my prayers started to go from money, success, houses and such to health and peace for those around me. I eventually started praying for Gods will for me and direction to better myself as it would be useful to others. Things started effecting me less and I found more peace on a daily bases. Over time I started praying for the people I did not like that they might find happiness and peace. I know pray for just about everyone that they might find happiness and an end to their suffering. I try to help people regardless of their relationship to me. I don’t feel we should hold back our love or prayers cause the people are not me, or part of my family and friends, or don’t live in my town, state, country. We are one big family and someone’s suffering is no less important cause they live on the other side of the world.

Our capacity for love for others knows no bounds what are you doing to enlarge it today?

Peace Love Das

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Conduit

As a goal I seek to be a conduit for the divine.  A channel of peace and love.  Through spiritual work, any kind of spiritual work I feel the channel becomes more free flowing and allows that energy to pass through better.  It keeps me acting out of love instead of reacting out of ego.  That divine energy is always there to tap into but it can be blocked as in the way the sun is always shinning but it is harder to see with the clouds in the way let alone feels its warmth.  When someone is lashing out at me due to some suffering in their life I can either react out of ego and lash back ruining both of our days or I can act out of love.  This type of reaction can change not only the way I conduct business but also the person receiving it.  It can let them know that someone cares show them a little understanding.  I have seen this approach stop people in their tracks and it dawn on them that their actions are not appropriate.  It has the power to turn a negative experience into a positive one.  Two people may even gain a friend when they so desperately need one.  This is a practice and like any practice it most be strengthened in the presence of those we love so it can be used towards people who may not love us.  Being mindful of any situations we can provide that conduit for love to all, it isn’t always easy but it is always worth it for our happiness and others.

 

Peace Love Das

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Judging People On Their Past Mistakes

Another suggested topic this one was brought to me by someone who is near and dear to my heart so here goes. Lets start with judging -1.Form an opinion or conclusion about. Judging never works well as we think we have absolute understanding of where people are coming from. Which usually is not the case and if we did have that understanding we would not judge so harshly. We would have an understanding of why someone does what they do and reach out to them with compassion. We also tend to judge from a position of ego looking down on our fellow man separating us. Having a judgment on anything brings attachment to that judgment and a need to defend that position and be right which only causes more suffering. We can have views on certain things but its good to have an understanding that people are making the best decision they can at any given time even if it looks completely different from the outside.

On to judging people on their past mistakes. Assuming that here are mistakes in this life to me the only mistake you truly make is the one you don’t learn from or can’t help someone else with the experience of having made it. To judge someone on a mistake they made in the past is just wrong if you can’t accept them for who they are and what they have done you probably should not have them in your life. Everyone makes mistakes I at one time in my life was very miserable and mistreated people on a daily basis out of my suffering, it brought on more suffering to myself and people around me and seemed to be an endless cycle but made me who I am today. I am truly sorry to the people I have hurt and try to make up for it everyday not only with words but with actions but I needed that part of my life to grow into where I am now. I would hate for someone to judge me by what I did at a low point in my life thinking they know something about me now. We all make mistakes and should not throw stones no matter what type of house we live in.

You would not judge a rose when you just planted it you would wait for it to bloom to realize its true beauty so don’t judge people on what they did while they were still growing and hopefully the will show you the same patience.

If you love someone for who they are don’t judge them on what has brought them to who they are.

Peace Love Das

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Endless Needs

Many of us confuse our needs and wants and through our brainwashing and constant hypnosis through outside sources we think we need so much to be happy. We think that when we receive our latest desire that we experience happiness and that level of happiness is there but not for the reasons we think. I believe we return to our natural state of happiness when that need/want is filled the trick is if we never had the want we might of stayed in our natural state of happiness the whole time. Many a time I have been perfectly happy but see something I want and that want turns quickly in my head into a need (something I try to stay away from). Once I make up my mind that I want that thing it ruins my peace and takes over my thinking many times this thing is something I have lived without my whole life but now it is super important. Once I get this thing then its importance dies. The happiest I have ever been was never because of things but cause of my relationship to others and God centeredness. With the current state of the media putting celebrities at god like status many people believe we need that type of money so we can buy anything we want to be happy and its just not the case the problem is we get away from our peace and happiness in our struggle for the new shinny thing. You can’t fill a god sized whole with cars, money or anything else sure they are nice to have but they lose there shine quick. Look at how many celebrities and people of seemingly endless means who have everything money could buy are miserable. In such a state of suffering that they turn to drugs and many destructive behaviors to change the way they feel. We watch them on the news and think they are just crazy I don’t believe that to be the case they are just suffering like many of us do and they thought they would be happy when they got everything they wanted. We as people of lesser means tend to think of our suffering as lack of this or that and when we see people with the things we want and they are not happy we can only come up with “they are crazy”. That’s why so many of these people turn to spirituality to be happy and after that we say they have gone even further off the deep end, when I see it I think thank God they are on the right path now.

Yes basic needs are important and a level of comfort is great but once that it satisfied it up to us to get back to happiness, forget all the negative we have learned and find peace.

What do you think? I would love to know your views.

Peace Love Das

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Grateful

Well its as good a time as any to talk about being grateful and not only saying it but showing it.  We all have something most of us many things to be grateful for.  It is amazing how we can move away from gratitude to taking things for granted at light speed.  There are many things in our lives that would be completely heart breaking if taken away yet we take them for granted.  Things like health, shelter, a hot shower, food, friends, jobs and relationships.  I am very grateful for the things and the people/relationships I have in my life today.  I try to show it too but that was not always the case at one point in my life I took everything for granted and didn’t really do a hill of crap for anyone and I was miserable totally focused on what I didn’t have.  Today much of the same things materially are in my life and I am grateful for of them but the relationships are far better cause I don’t take them for granted.  I try to focus on the positive cause it impacts others positively and hey its a lot better than being miserable all the time trust me I know.  But do we show we are grateful?  I sure try to and I will give you some examples.  I have a job its a pretty good job, well the best I ever had so I show up to work and do the best I can on any given day.  I have family and friends I love so I try to be there for them and let them know how much they mean to me.  I dig the companionship my cat gives me as well as the laughter he causes on a regular basis so I feed him, pet him and give him some treats.  I have a girlfriend who when I was single I would do a lot to get she is awesome and a big part of my life so I try to do nice things for her like open a car door, do some dishes and all kinds of stuff.  The point is people tend to take a lot of stuff for granted, if we are truly grateful for stuff show it.  Sometimes we treat strangers better than the people who have been around us showing support and love its time to stop all that.

 

Well that’s my two cents for the night drop yours in the comments I would love to know what’s on your mind

 

Peace Love Das  

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Relationships?? How to put up with the bullshit that comes along with them…

Relationships??  How to put up with the bullshit that comes along with them…, hey I don’t edit the suggested topics titles that’s exactly how it was suggested to me.

Relationships are a tricky thing so many moving parts not to mention the role that our reason for being here plays into them.  Reason for being here being to grow spiritually.  The problem that I have had and a lot of people I know when going into relationships is, drum roll please, we don’t even love ourselves that much how are we going to love someone else.  Many of us have bad self images and I am not just talking about physical appearance things we have done, our current life situations, past mistakes and all kinds of other stuff are a hard pill to swallow sometimes.  It is hard to except ourselves exactly how we are now, I try to look at it that I am exactly how I am suppose to be at any given moment good or bad.  I have made the best decisions I could at any given time in my process of growth but that was a long journey, but back on topic.  So many of us don’t even love ourselves or show it for that matter but deep down a lot of the time our ego still tells us that we are better than most of the people around us and we take that into relationships.  Just crazy talk.  When we understand that we are people beautiful people but just people, when we can love our whole self and realize the people around us are just people doing the best they can it is a better place to go in and try for a relationship with others.  The more we think of ourselves not in a egotistical way but in a self love way we are more ready to see people as beautiful and what they really are making there own mistakes to but trying their best and learning.

Over past relationship’s romantic and other I have found myself trying to change people and mold them into what I believe they should be instead of what I try to do now, love people exactly as they are.  To love and accept someone as they are is huge in my world yes it is much easier in a romantic relationship when you are compatible but why try and get into a relationship with someone you are not compatible with.  Don’t try to put a square peg in a round hole wait for the round peg to show up.  I have also learned to realize that sometimes the person we are in a relationship with are doing things you may not like, does not mean they are doing it to piss you off.  Let them be if it is not a big deal don’t make it if its something you need to work on together don’t hold it in but also don’t make little shit big shit.  Furthermore what is all this 50/50 crap in a relationship?  For it to work its got to be 100/100 you got to be all in.  Now don’t go thinking that hey I’m putting 100 in and they are not your 100% percent is different on different days and so is everyone else’s so just put your heart into it but still be you never give that up does any of this make sense?  Probably not

To wrap up, cuase hey its late and there is meditation to be had. If you are going to love someone accept them as they are stop trying to change every little thing about people.  If its not a big deal don’t make it one.  Have faith that the right person will come along at the right time but sometimes that person is just a learning experience so you can have greater love later.  Don’t settle cause you are not happy being with yourself use the time to get to be happy by yourself then your ready for a relationship.

 

Ok one last blurb, I once came to a point where I was not happy in relationships I thought there was nobody there for me so I gave up I was gonna be happy by myself.  So I was spent time with friends worked on myself spiritually was really living life and it was great.  I was speaking with my best friend one afternoon and I said for me to be in a relationship I would have to find a girl who fit a certain very specific criteria.  I wont get into the whole list but it included having climbed at least 17 of the 35 Catskill high peaks and being able to dance in the supermarket.  I put this out to my best friend and to God and said if I was going to get back into a relationship this girl would appear….  Couple months down the line that girl was in my life and we were working on how to love each other as we are.  Almost two years later and we are climbing mountains still and dancing everywhere we go.  It is not always perfect but most of the time it is pretty darn close.  So put it out there and the person you are looking for might show up hell they might be in front of you all along.  Remember love yourself, love those around you and if you are up to the challenge love your enemies.

 

Well that is it for tonight if you have a suggested topic leave it in the comments.

 

Peace Love Das

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Help

Over my life many many people have helped me. From my parents to my family, friends, cowokers and complete strangers. At one point in my life I was at an all time low and really didn’t see the point in going on but a complete stranger completely changed my life with the help of a few others. It tramsformed the way I live, think and act. There was just one catch, I would have to help others once I was in a postion to do so. Today I am very happy most of the time and help as many people as I can. You can always do more but honestly doing your best is what you can do on any given day. I will help just about anyone as long as I beilieve they will help others someday and who am I kidding even if they won’t. People helped me when I didn’t deserve it and was not very appreciative of it so I try to see where people are coming from and lend a helping hand. I found out a couple things along this journey. 1 the people who lash out and cause suffering are usually suffering the most and need the most help and 2 I dont know if anyone benefits from it more than me I have more love and understanding in my heart than I have ever had because of this journey and for that I am grateful.

What do you think?  Will you help others today? A family member? Friend? Coworker? Stranger?  Well for the maximum spiritual benifit I suggest helping an enemy and in the end you will find out you dont have any.

Peace Love Das

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The Golden Rule

So recently The Golden Rule has come up a lot in conversations so I would like to take a short look at it now cause hey it is on my mind.  ” One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself” or some version of that many are out there.  I think it is a fantastic rule in the broad sense to me it means treat others with love and compassion.  The problem that I think we run into and I say we cause I’m in the boat from time to time, is that we centralize this and put it in line with our egos.  When this rule is viewed with our ego in the forefront it can be far from loving and even cruel.  Just because something is a way specifically you want to be treated does not mean everyone else feels the same way about a particular act.  So it takes understanding(which leads to compassion) when employing this rule properly.  For example when going through a tough situation I dig joking about it, it takes a lot of the bite out of the situation in the beginning especially before I have had a chance to process it.  Like when I lost my job after 6 years and I knew it was coming to an end it became a joke between my best friend and I.  After a long wait it finally happened I didn’t know what I was going to do next and I was worried about it for a long time.  When I phoned my friend to give him the news that this event finally took place he said “It’s about time, want to go hiking”.  Which made me laugh and took a lot out of the situation, he also had the understanding of me and how I am to properly read the situation and respond accordingly.  Now if I responded with a joke when some people I am friends with were going through a serious situation it would hurt them incredibly they would not see the humor because it is not the way they want to be treated.  If I am letting my ego run the show I can say screw them I wouldn’t get upset what’s wrong with them.  Nothing is wrong with them not everyone wants to be treated the way you do and if we view them with a loving heart we can see that.  Nobody is perfect and we are going to hurt some people that is for sure but we can sure cut down on the amount of hurt we cause by keeping and open heart and understanding the people we have the most impact on the people around us that we know and love.  If we have better understanding of the way they would like to be treated it can cause less suffering for everyone in the long run. 

 

So to wrap it up treat people with love and compassion not specifically the way you want to be treated.  We can go a lot further in our relationships with people close to us if we treat them the way they want to be treated.

 

What is your take on this one?

 

Peace Love Das