Patience

Patience, another topic suggested by one of my readers.  Patience is something when worked on not only benefits those around us but it helps us to live a more peaceful life.  Many times we lose patience with others when we are focused on ourselves.  We see only what we are focused on and when doing so any action by others can be seen as a disruption to our peace because we lack patience in dealing with others.  This can ruin our day as well as others when we lack patience we do not act we react to the perceived situation and many times hurt others which can be the opposite of what we want to do but have little control.  We may even end up having guilt over the way we have treated people.  The real problem is we have lack of understanding of the situations people are going through around us.  The guy who just cut me off is a xxxxx and he can go xxxx himself cause I got places to go too.  What we don’t understand is what the xxxxx is going through.  He may be rushing his child laying down in the back seat of his car to the hospital, he may be late for an important job that is his only hope of supporting his family.  The point is we don’t know and if we did we might not react so swiftly but have compassion for him.  Also there is many things I have done to piss people off lots of that time my actions were less than stellar but directly attributed to some suffering I was going through I could of used some patience, some love at that time.  I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and give them some slack as I have been show it from time to time when I needed it.  What other choice do I have I can lose my patience all I want even if I’m justified in my action in my own head at the end of the day I have lost my peace I am disturbed and I have caused harm to others which is a failing mark in my book for the day.

 

Do you show others patience?  Are there times when someone has shown you patience you didn’t deserve?  Shouldn’t we pass that along to others?

 

Peace Love Das

Happy Holidays

I am down in North Carolina this week for work a couple days away from my beloved New Jersey and 1 thing was noticeably different the second I walked off the plane.  Forget that I wasn’t even off the plane yet and I heard it Merry Christmas it is been a custom where I live to say Happy Holidays for quite some time now.  As soon as I landed the pilot came over the loudspeaker have an said have a great day and Merry Christmas.  I noticed it because I’m so used to hearing happy holidays I for 1 have no problem with it doesn’t bother me in the least but some people get all up in arms about it.  I also noticed the lack of Menorah flanking Christmas trees down here which is the common practice up north.  my question is what do you say? do you have a problem with it? does it bother you to hear a specific holiday with the well wishing?  if I know your religion I will use that this time of year if I know you’re Jewish I’m going to say Happy Hanukkah if you’re Christian I’m going to say Merry Christmas if I don’t know I will use happy holidays.  Feel free to whish me whatever you like I will celebrate it all and if your  atheist have a nice day.  I think the spirit of the holidays is love and that no matter what holiday you celebrate we should be sharing that love celebrating what brings us together and not what seperates us.

Peace Love Das

Success

Success, many people succeed in different areas of their live some excel at jobs, some at family, sports, spiritually and many other ways(spelling and punctuation is not something I succeed at sorry).  We all succeed at something everyone has strong points and weak points but the thing to remember most is NOBODY SUCCEEDS IN A VACCUUM.  Everyone somewhere along the way has been helped by someone in which way does not matter but be assured wherever you are whatever situation you are currently in somebody, probably lots of people have helped you.

If you think this does not apply to you, you my friend owe many people a thank you.  Sometimes when people are so driven to succeed in something they don’t stop to notice who is helping them along the way.  I’m sure I have been guilty of this on one, two probably a thousand occasions and I’m sure at one time or another I will be again but these days its important for me to tell people thank you and let them know I appreciate what they have done for me.  Sometimes they don’t even know it so its good to let them know.  Being thankful for the help you receive should have the outcome of you helping others to complete the circle as well.  Yes everyone has the ability to help someone in some way.

I have learned many things from many people my sister Trisha showed me not to care what anyone thinks and to do what’s in your heart.  My brother and father showed me that hard work pays off.  My sister Kristy showed me what being kind to someone is like.  My twin sister showed me what it’s like to have a first best friend.  My mother showed me to love yourself even if nobody else does.  My step mother showed me to be responsible.  My girlfriend showed me that two people can be themselves in a relationship and love each other for it.  My best friend Ted showed me that two friends can never be inappropriate when they are having fun.  This list could go on and on forever and I’m sure I would still leave people out so If I did thank you and if you want more description of what you mean in my life call me cause a lot of super important people did not make the list cause I don’t want to bore everyone more than I already have.

Thanks to everyone that has helped me in my life especially you.

Peace Love Das

Giving Thanks Year Round

Thanksgiving is a beautiful holiday here in the US we all come together with friends and family and hopeful are thankful for all we have, but why keep it to just one day?  To me Thanksgiving is a important reminder a beacon that should set off a light that hey look at all this love in my life.  The most important thing to me is family on this day and just about everyone the rest of the year.  The family I was born with and the other ones I choose to be part of.  With all the money and things in the world they are empty unless I have people to share it with but on the other hand I don’t need much material things if I have good relationships and loving people in my life.  To me giving thanks for the people around me is an action.  I need to treat these people with love and respect.  Show them what they mean to me and let them know.  I might even put my selfish desires to the side and sacrifice a little to give them what they need and not what I think they need.  To be thankful and live at least a small portion of everyday helping people is to truly be alive.

Peace Love Das